Learning to say no so you can say yes
If you’re a freelancer this is for you. Even if you’re not, this is probably still for you. I know, there are plenty of good books out there on this subject matter and they come with “expert” advice and less grammatical errors but, sometimes us creatives have to be reminded of our limitations.
So this is your friendly reminder….. YOU CAN’T DO IT ALL.
Okay, now that we got that out of the way, lets talk about how we get in those situations in the first place. Our greatest strength is our Achilles heel. It’s that “can do” attitude that made us the [insert favorite title you made up for yourself here] we are today. Whether we are an entrepreneur, artist, designer, freelancer, etc, etc. we all find ourselves biting off more than we can chew. We know we can do something so we automatically volunteer to do it for someone without assessing the cost. It’s not only the time you are loosing that could be spent on other things but you are also preventing that person from discovering what they are capable of. Now I’m not going to get into the psychology of why discovering new things on your own is good for an individual but, don’t rob someone of the joy of the journey. Lets be honest, if someone is really wanting to accomplish a dream, they’re not going to wait on you to do it for them anyways.
If you take anything away from that paragraph riddled with grammar errors its… Don’t give up your dreams to realize someone else’s. I’m not saying that in a selfish way as many of you are thinking but, their dream is their journey and your dream is yours. Don’t loose sight of that. This doesn’t mean to say “no” to everyone who asks anything of you, or justifying the rejection of those in need but, we must be careful in how we let others spend our time just as we should be careful in how we choose to spend our time.
Which brings me to my second point… Learning to say no, so we can say yes. If you agree to help everyone out to pursue their frivolous fantasies you find yourself too busy to be a part of the things you hold dear to your heart. You don’t want to pack your schedule with frivolous things because something much more important is going to come up. Make time for those unexpected adventures, they are the most important moments of your life.
Well before I trail off subject to far, let me make my third point. Time is your most valuable currency, spend it wisely. Some people place a heavy importance on money but, it’s not the most valuable currency you have to spend. You’ve probably heard it before, “time is money” and that’s almost true. Well it’s 12:30AM and the iPad is at 2% so this blog is to be continued…..
Love the post!! I actually find myself volunteering my time a lot to help out friends, which I definitely necessary, you just have you keep I’m mind what the outcome will mean. Offering your “help” doesn’t mean completing the task at hand “for” them.